Text messaging is a common practice. We have read and heard about situations and times when it is not safe to text message. This week’s article is about texting while dating. Go to the link below and read the article. Write a reflective comment that shows you have read the article, expresses your views, and addresses my questions.
Would you text while on a date? How would you respond if someone you were dating began texting? What would be an appropriate way to get your date to stop texting? Is it possible for someone to be a “textaholic?” The article mentions some special uses for texting. What is the most unusual or special use for texting that you have seen or heard of?
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If I was on a date, I would never text because quite honestly, it “distinguishes” the romance and cozy mood that is present, setting up the path to a “technology-based” romance, which will ultimately get boring and allow both parties to call it quits. However, if I was not on a date, I would most likely text my girlfriend in order to be able to communicate with her and see how she is doing; it would be too much of a hassle to go over to her house every time I wanted to see her. On the other hand, if someone I was dating began texting while they were with me, I would quickly interpret it as a sign that they are just not that interested in me, as if they were, they would be focusing on me and not their form of advanced technology, which practically is always accessible. Thus, I would most likely confront my date first and see what she has to say in her defense and if her response seems fabricated and in no way plausible, then I would probably just pick up the bill and leave (if you take a girl out on a date, it is one thing to “abandon” her, but making her pay the bill, as well, is simply to much for anybody for one night). Despite this, if I was really interested in my date and wanted to get her to stop texting, I could start asking her about herself (people really start to block you out when you begin to talk too much about yourself), her hobbies, her interests and the type of person she is, which will probably start to get her talking and possibly rekindle the romance that died out from the beginning. Additionally, we could just leave the environment and atmosphere we are in (sometimes it is the setting and not you) and go somewhere more amusing, like the mall or a bowling alley. By this change of atmosphere, hopefully my date will reconsider me. Furthermore, I honestly believe that there is such a thing as a “textaholic”, as in the technically advanced world we live in today, communication is extremely integral and the new and different forms of advanced communication that have been invented have ultimately grabbed most of us in and got us addicted to them to the point where we sole rely on them as our form of communication with other people. In addition, such technologies are really attracting and amusing to some extent. As a result, when we are on them, it is hard to get off, allowing us to become “textaholics”, which is truly the case with the internet, as well. Moreover, the most bizarre or special use for texting that I have seen or heard of is texting while at your own birthday party. Last year, one of my friends had a huge birthday party at their house and they invited quite a lot of people. Weirdly enough, instead of my friend acting as a host, he went up to his room, leaving everybody downstairs, and began texting other people, including me. Apparently, my friend thought that his party and most of the people he invited were lame, causing him to isolate himself from everyone else. Ultimately, while texting can be a cool technology to use, it serves more as “fire”, rather than “water”.
My opinion is that when you are trying to talk to somebody and they are texting it can be very distracting to the conversation. For this reason I wouldn't text on a date. I think that if I were dating somebody and they texted their friends I would be rather annoyed because it would be very distracting. I don't think there is much that you can say to somebody who is a textaholic (it is possible), but maybe you should inform them of how annoying it is.
people sitting next to each other really shouldn't text each other and let it be obvious, that is just mean.
Omar Abdel-Rahim
If I was on a date, there would be no chance at all of me trying to text someone while on the date. That is because it both breaks up the current conversation, and makes the following conversation quite akward. It shows that you would rather be talking to someone else, than actually communicating with your date. If someone I was dating began texting,I would get a bit angry and would be dissapointed in them and their social skills. I know that may sound weird or harsh, but honestly, who texts someone else in a blatantly obvious fashion, with someone who is trying to communicate with you and be polite. It is a rude thing to do, and I would feel affronted. There is no appropriate way to get them to stop texting, and the only way to do so is to confront them and alert them to what they are doing, texting on a date, and tell them to stop. It is possible for someone to be a textaholic, and I'm sure there are people out there who are stuck in a frenzy of those electronic messages, constantly sending them to everyone they know. The main special uses for texting that I have heard of are making reservations at restaurants cancelling or scheduling dates on the spot, or immediately getting the word out about a new crisis.
No, I wouldn't text while on a date. That sends the message of there being something else that's more important than them and that there's something that you'd rather be doing. Maybe not the desired meaning, but it is what it is. If someone did that to me, I'd sit through the date, and not go for a second with the guy. I wouldn't treat anyone like that, and would like to be returned the same respect. Of course it's possible to be a "textaholic." People that constantly have their phone on them and are constantly sending or receiving texts are the definition of a textaholic. One of the weirdest (there was definitely at least one other that startled me) was the flirting while texting. I, personally, can barely understand texting in normal intended tones, and text-tones are totally out of my capability. But, maybe I'll learn one day.
First of all, without text messaging I would probably die. However, on a date? No! I’d never text on a date that’s so rude, except if it’s to my mother or father, then I’d tell my date that I’m texting them so that he doesn’t feel insulted or offended in any way. If someone I was dating began texting, simply, I would take their phone after they were done, and check who it was to. If it were to an ex, or a girl that isn’t related to him, I would leave to be quite honest. If it was to a guy, saying something that has nothing to do with me, I’d stay and I wouldn’t mind at all. Nevertheless, if it were saying something about me, I’d lecture the guy then leave. Only way to stop someone while texting during the date is to say it, “Please stop or I’m leaving.” Threatening would probably work best. Yes, it’s very possible for someone to be a textaholic. I for one am guilty of being one. I cannot go a day without texting one of my friends a completely useless and uncalled for message! The most unusual use of texting would definitely be flirting, how can you flirt through less than 1000 characters? I don’t get it. In addition, flirting does not work through words only. Joking. However, flirting through texting would definitely be the most unusual since text messaging is for quick messages to people, not getting to know people and getting through to them.
Omar Al-Sadi
No but I would check the text. (thats easy to do on an IPhone). I would start to text to. I would tell them to stop texting. Yes, I was a textaholic but now I’m just a normal texter. Something that I found interesting is spreading gossip on text. That’s really annoying because when somebody finds something out they quickly tell everyone.
Well, I wouldn’t text while being on a date, I think it’s unrespectful and rude. However I wouldn’t like my date texting while being with me, I definitely wouldn’t get mad if it was just a bit, I guess I could sort of understand, but if my date would exaggerate, I would.
To stop my date from texting I would probably just tell the person it’s distracting me, if the person wouldn’t stop, I would just leave. And it is possible for someone to be textaholic, I think I am, I text 24/7, I would die without texting. I used to be even more, now I’m more “normal”.
I would agree with the post above --> spreading gossip, otherwise I really can’t think of anything.
No I would never text while on a date, it is considered to be very rude and makes my date think that I don't want to talk to her because she's a boring person or something, it also shows that you'd rather talk to someone else other than your date. I would try to change the conversation to something fun if I saw her texting, because obviously the boring conversation was what made her text someone else, I would be very mad. An appropriate way to tell my date to stop texting would be asking her nicely to stop ignoring me. Yes it is possible for someone to be a "textaholic,"I know many friends that are "textaholics" it is defiantly not a good thing, many teens in America die because of texting while driving, that's how addicting it could get. I think flirting was the most unusual special use for texting, I would rather flirt with the girl in real than texting her.
I would not text if I was on a date. Most people tend to find that it is disrespectful or disgraceful for your date if you were texting. If I know my date well enough, and know she wouldn't mind I would most likely text (only to reply to a previous message sent to me). I really wouldn’t care if my date texted some one for a very short while. As long as she doesn’t start a long conversation, I wouldn’t take it as a disrespect what so ever. I think telling them "you text way too much, isn’t it annoying?" this respectively gives my date an idea that I am a little annoyed and would like them to stop. I think it is defiantly possible to be a textaholic. I have seen a case on TV were a girl text messaged her boy friend 1,532 times in just one month. This of course made her boyfriend mad and so he broke up with her (they got back together later).
I would never text people while I am on a date because it is very rude and the person who you are dating would think that you are a person who is always talking to other friends and just ignoring your girl friend. If the person I am dating starts texting, I wouldn’t tell her anything because it would also be rude to tell her that you should stop texting and talk to me. I wouldn’t tell her anything but I would be very mad and upset inside and I wouldn’t share my feelings. I think an appropriate way to tell the girl to stop texting is just to tell her, “I really like you and all, but I feel that it would be better if you talk to me more and ignore your phone for a while because I want to know more about you.” I think that it is definitely possible for someone to be a “textaholic” especially teenagers like us, because all we do is talk to our friends and care less about our school (which is for most of the people). I think that the most special uses for texting that I have seen and also heard of is sending messages for advertisements, sending messages for reservations, and also sending messages for news about politics or anything important.
No, I would never text while Im on a date that’s so rude. And I totally think that someone can be a textaholic it’s easy to be one. If my date was texting, I would tell him to give me his phone and put it in my pocket and then wait and see who is texting him☺. I totally believe that texting while on a date could affect someone’s relationship.
I do not believe that you should text while on a date or with someone important, why, because it is rude. I have been in a relationship where the girl was text messaging and I thought it was with another guy so I left but it turned out to be with her mom she was saying he wont be home late, she showed me the proof. I like text messaging, it is an easy way to talk to people when you are in trouble but I think that that you shouldn’t spend twenty-four seven. I used to text in class two years ago when I was bored but I do still prefer chatting because its free and its better, but I would only use chat when I need to or when the person is not online, like if I need homework.
If I was on a date, I would text if it was important but not usually i find it rude. Its also really distracting which breaks up the conversation going on. If my date starts texting I will just get annoyed and disappointed. I will just give them a sign to stop because it annoying me and interrupting our conversation. Yes, it is possible for someone to be a "textaholic". I agree what other people said about text being unusual the i have heard or seen of is "spreading gossip, otherwise I really can’t think of anything."
Yes i would text while dating. I would rspond normally. I would say i got to go eat so talk to you later. No. None.
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